by Cailin O'Hara, MAcOM, LAc, Dipl OM
Have you seen this video? Never, Ever Give Up
A professor showed it to us in one of my doctoral classes today after asking us, “who has made a positive impact on your life?" I thought of an old therapist of mine. I desperately sought her help for anxiety back in 2009 or so. She became more of a mentor to me over time. She taught me about self-worth, mindfulness, creating the life you want and natural healing approaches.
She helped me wake up.
Back then, I was so disconnected from myself.
I didn’t understand how I was creating my own pain and anxieties.
At the time, I felt victimized in every way.
It was such a low point. I was living in fear. My health was declining.
I was panicked, overwhelmed and feeling lost.
I’m lightyears from that feeling now.
I’m not that person.
I had a LOT of undoing to do. The therapist I mentioned was sort of the beginning. I went on to find more healers to help me; I dedicated myself to healing and enrolled in a Chinese medicine program.
Ok, so how is this about me believing in YOU, though?
There were people that believed in me when I couldn't see my way out.
They saw me as whole and healed and helped light my way back home to myself.
This is now what I hope to do for you.
Don’t let anyone ever tell you what you can’t do, or have, or become.
You are a living miracle.
You are perfect.
Everything about you is just right.
The art is in learning how that’s true, how you can side with yourself once and for all as your own best friend, your own soul mate, now and as long as you live (and beyond).
I envision you in perfect health.
I see you in all of your intricacies that come together to make the magical being that you are. You really are far more powerful than you could ever know.
But it’s worth trying to find out.
Don’t let anyone take away your hope.
Don’t believe in anything that doesn’t resonate with you.
If there is something you want, some way you want to feel, some level of life you want to live, it really is yours.
I believe in you.
by Cailin O'Hara, MAcOM, LAc, Dipl OM
"Love yourself!" "Heal the world!" "You can do it!"
Sounds like BS, maybe? All of that self-help, New Age mumbo jumbo, blah blah blah.
Actually, it's true. Let me tell you why.
The way you feel about yourself affects everything you do, say and create.
The way you feel about yourself is rooted in your beliefs. Beliefs create your thoughts, which inform your decisions. Your decisions create your life path, one choice at a time. If you believe you are less than, unworthy, not good enough, not lovable, flawed, it will negatively affect the decisions you make. You will limit yourself, your potential and the positive impacts you can have on the "world"... aka all of us that need you, your gifts, your unique perspective.
You are limitless. It is your beliefs that tell you otherwise.
Beliefs are changeable. Starting right now, you can begin telling yourself a different story and exploring different perspectives. You are not fixed, stuck nor limited at all. You are limitless, fluid and ever-changing. If you begin challenging your current beliefs that seem to hold you back, you then give yourself the FREEDOM to experience NEW and more empowering perspectives. And hint: choose the perspectives that make you feel happiest because they likely mirror who you really are.
As you expand past old limitations and useless beliefs, you tap into what you can really do. You discover the inspiration to make significant changes not only in your own life but in the life of others. You can create a positive momentum forward for all of us by a) letting go of what whatever has been holding you back unnecessarily and b) doing whatever it is that you do best.
What you focus on will grow. What are you paying attention to?
So, here's the key. This is why the way you feel about yourself can affect the health of the world... through the POWER of your focus. If you are fixated on the negatives, the problems, the lack, the injustice, it becomes your default operating mode. This can create BIG blind spots so you can't see all of the good you possess, all of the good around you, all of the good you can offer and create. You are literally standing in your own way.
Focusing solely on the negative aspects of something will limit you from seeing the good, the potential, the myriad ways to make things better.
Can you see why the way you feel about yourself is so important? The world really does need YOU, just as you are, to make the positive difference that you're here to make.
If we can all do this, one by one, we have the power to heal ourselves, our lineage and ultimately, the world.
Dr. Cailin O'Hara, DACM, LAc, Dipl OM, is a nationally board certified Doctor of Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture, herbalist and coach. She is based in Phoenix, AZ.